1. It is true that the first thing a man will notice about you is your body. That is the reason why women are more body conscious than men. But which one is more important? You or your body?

2. A man will come after you if your body is inviting, if you are well dressed and attractive or if you ‘dress down’ like a call girl. A man sees your body and not the person who owns it. He is not concerned about you as a person, he only wants your body. Once he gets it, uses it, he moves on. And the ‘you’ is left used and empty!

3. Attracting a man with your body is good but it is a very weak way to connect with a man. Why do I say so? If you are on a busy street, just pause for a few minutes and you will notice several girls who have a more endowed body than yours.

4. Spending time on your external beauty is good because it helps to keep you attractive. If you are not attractive, a man will pay you little or no attention. But you’ve got the real you that you must work on as an anchor to hold on to the real man that comes your way. It is only the real you that must be charming, magnetic, and inviting that can help seal a deal. That’s what will make that man have a sleepless and incomplete life without you.

5. Every woman must discover her own area of strength. What makes you stand out and beautiful? You should concentrate on that instead of trying to be like every other woman. For instance, if skirts make you look good, then fill your wardrobe with skirts that do your body justice. Do what is best for you not what is best for another woman. Your priority should not be to kill or slay with your skirt, but rather to make you comfortable as your real self.

6. Your focus should be on developing your inner beauty. This has to do with your emotional quotient or EQ. This has to do with the understanding of your own emotions and your ability to read and connect emotionally with people without them taking advantage of you, or you are leading them astray. If you have no control over your emotions, you are in serious trouble.

7. No matter how beautiful or sexy you are, if you are lacking in inner beauty, no man will want to spend time with you. Some men may close their eyes to your deep flaws just to enjoy your body for a while, but they will never connect with you. Even if you walk around naked around them all the time, you will still be rejected because they are not seeing you as a material to spend the rest of their lives with. It isn’t because you are not beautiful externally, it is because your emotional quotient is poor and very low. In fact, it is your soul they cannot connect with.

8. Inner beauty also has to do with developing other areas of your character like integrity, patience, forgiveness, empathy, peace, etc. These qualities will attract a man to you even if you are not so physically endowed. A woman who brings peace to a man is priceless. You may have several degrees but if you cannot make a man feel at peace with you, your degrees are worthless to him. Somehow, you may be brainy and beautiful with a great body, and you can still be repulsive to men.

9. If a man sees that you have a razor blade mouth, an arrogant, forceful and pushy outlook, you are quick to argue, insult back and enforce your opinion on the ground that you are right, a potential suitor will naturally stay away from you. No matter how beautifully complete you are with the first 3Bs, you will be in the marriage shopping market for a very long time. Have you ever wondered why those you are much better than get taken off the market before you? Trust me, a potential suitor may keep track of you without you knowing it, this is why there must be a harmony in everything. I feel sorrier for ladies who walk around almost naked not realising that men want peace of mind in their home, not just sex.

10. Men love intelligent women. Do yourself a favour and develop your mind. Read good books. Engage in intellectually stimulating discussions. Seek to learn and understand more about the people and the world you live in. This is exciting to most men. If a man is not interested in your mind, he is probably using you for your body or for your money and will soon let you go for another woman.

11. It is the wise use and combination of your body, beauty and brains that attracts a man. What keeps him is the development of your character. It is tough but the benefits will be more than worth the effort you invest in it.

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